Want to build your self confidence and self esteem? One of the quickest paths to that goal may be to make an effort to start feeling your emotions.

That concept may seem, but many persons must achieve confidence in their own emotions before they can begin feeling better about themselves. It might be you have spent much of your life disowning and masking your feelings. If that is turns out to be the case, then you will have some unlearning you must do.

Can you recall when you were a youngster, enjoying yourself on the playground, when an older kid came along and pushed you off the swingset? If that never happened to you, ipicture it in your mind’s eye. How would you (or did you) feel about it? I’ll wager that your emotions at that particular moment were sharp and clear — and you probably had absolutely no problem in expressing them, whether through yelling or letting the tears gush forth, or even chasing after the bully and trying to strike him back.

I don’t advise lashing out physically at others, but short of that, is there anything wrong with acknowledging your true feelings in every situation, the distressed and unhappy ones as well as the happy and cheerful ones?

Sadly, grown-ups in this culture have had drilled into them that they should squelch their emotions, and even to name some feelings as bad. Some men and women have learned this senseless idea so thoroughly that they no longer even understand what they are feeling from one moment to the next. Getting in touch with your emotions is crucial if you want to boost your confidence.

When a person accepts his or her emotions, that person does so simply by acknowledging them. From this time forward, give yourself the freedom to experience every feeling that rises up within. Don’t choke it off!

When you are watching a melancholy program on television, permit yourself to shed tears. If you happen to see some happening that strikes you as uproariously funny, let yourself have a good belly laugh, even if you are in public and others look at you strangely. Yell about the inconsiderate driver who swerved in front of you on the expressway, and keep yelling until the anger passes or just naturally dies away.

Owning your emotions, without being ashamed of them, will liberate your true self simply as a result of squarely facing what is occurring for you at any given moment. And freeing that real self that you have kept hidden even from yourself all these years is certain to turbo charge your self confidence.

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