When we declare “I need to change this, that or the other” the majority of people would reply – possibly even if only to themselves, that it’s not realistic.  This is usually a lie many of us continue telling ourself, since it is easier to not change.  I’ve been coaching for over 6 years now and with every client I have witnessed the change they create within themselves.  I have had 4 coaches in the previous half-dozen years and I have enjoyed the wonderful power of creating change in my personal life.

Whenever we possess a really big desire for making changes in our lives, we will discover a strategy to make it manifest. Your commitment, based upon the desire to have change, is 1 / 2 this struggle achieved.  We make the choice, we accept the responsibility and then we take on the experience. We obtain a genuine look at what is currently going on and then we establish a vision of just what this change looks like, feels likes, creates within us and subsequently we take the actions to proceed from where we are to where the changed us, is.  As coaches this is where we make the biggest difference in our clients lives.

We live in a world of change, the weather is changing, the economies around the globe are constantly adjusting, our circumstances, our bodies and our experiences’ are constantly transforming and through this we are continuously becoming wiser, much more educated and {the need for} us to shift becomes more and more necessary.

Most of us desire transform on many levels. Within our relationship with a partner we may be seeking to create a purposeful link on an emotional level, with our kids we may choose to create purposeful communication, on a personal level you may want to get out of bed, every single day, with gratitude in your heart.  The transformation we want might be on a business level in which we may be looking for an entire new job.  The wish may be to connect with our teams more effectively.  The list is endless.

The transformation needs to begin inside of us and then work its way to the outside. Albert Einstein very wisely said, “The significant problems we face can not be solved on the same level of thinking we were at when we created them.”  Jim Rohn suggested “You must take personal responsibility. You cannot change the circumstances, the seasons, or the wind, but you can change yourself.”

Consequently, if enduring positive transformation {is going to} happen, we have to consider that we are where we’re currently, resulting from our personal doing – we simply can’t participate in the blame game. We’ve got to be honest and very aware of where we are at this point, what we are doing at present, what the consequences are each day and next we must evaluate who we desire to be going forward.  All of this involves letting go of the need to control everything - other than ourself. Once we’re able to take on this great responsibility the positive change will start happening.

You’re very conscious, I am sure, of where are you currently feeling not satisfied, where there may be dissonance in your life, where you’re trapped or whatever it might be for you personally. You’ve acknowledged the challenges.  Now take some time to consider a serious level look at where you are at present (the beginning of your journey). Once you are clear on this take time to consider where you desire to be in the future (your vision)?  Bear in mind this is the snapshot (vision) of the puzzle you will be building (the journey you’ll be going on).  Be very particular and include the fine detail, in both instances. If for instance, you believe you’re not being a great leader and you are not achieving the outcomes from your team that you ought to be, think about who you would be when you are a excellent leader?  Give some thought to what your function would be in realising this goal?  Exactly how would you perform?  How would you feel?  How might your team function? The gap is where the work is going to be done.

It is true for any job or career that our ability to succeed greatly depends on whether our values and passions are aligned with what is needed of us. Taking a good close look at what we genuinely value will shed light on why we find it difficult to be effective in some circumstances.

We have to make the effort to discover who we really are, what matters to us, what we are passionate about and what we value. Are our needs, values and passions showing up in our lives?  If they don’t, there is sure to be dissonance.

If being a great mother or father is of great value to you then what are you prepared to do and not do to become a mother or father that’s there for your kids, in every possible way?  What needs to change and are you willing to make the necessary adjustments to the way you are now being? Are you willing to do things differently? Are the things you have to do aligned with your values and what you really are passionate about?  Exactly what do you want to undertake and exactly what do you want to give up?

Transformation is extremely achievable nevertheless it’s not easy.  We will likely need to do things in a different way to obtain different outcomes, and that on it’s own is extremely tough.  We need  to be clear on what we want as well as on how we may support our self when our negative inner voice informs us we can’t make this happen, when our friends and family doubt our ability to reach our goals.  We need to take proactive action to stop these saboteurs in their tracks.  In the act of noticing when we ourselves or others are sabotaging our endeavours we begin to enable ourselves to make genuinely conscious decisions which will bring about positive, lasting change in our lives.

“Being proactive means that as human beings, we are responsible for our own lives.  Our behaviour is a function of our decisions, not our conditions.  We can subordinate feelings to values.  We have the initiative and the responsibility to make things happen.”  - ‘The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People’, Stephen Covey

 Life will go on like normal and is going to be hurling things our way. That is just life.  We cannot control life however we can control how we react to it.  When we achieve that place of being truly aware and in the moment, we can understand to not respond to reality where there is no response necessary.

Last but not least, some thoughts on mindset and attitude.  How we view the whole world or any given situation will certainly dictate our performance and our frame of mind.  Improve your attitude and you not merely change the way you see things, you will change your reality.  If you approach your life as being unfulfilled, that perception will trickle down into everything you do.  Try a new perspective on, one that will work in alignment with your ambitions and needs.

“Human beings, by changing the inner attitudes of their minds, can change the outer aspects of their lives.”-  William James/US Pragmatist philosopher & psychologist

Taking on this journey of desired change from the inside out means that we lay the foundation for a mind-set that permits us to make lasting changes that brings about a existence filled with meaning. Once the inner work is completed, it will spill over and the outer changes will grow.  You will be genuine, grounded and people is going to be drawn to the new you.  You will see possibilities all around you and you will keep growing and transforming.  The work you do on this journey to transform will impact every area of your life, not simply the ones that you set out to change originally.  The vision you create of precisely what this transformed you will look like will become your reality at this point.

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