At one point, most of us have felt jealous. Some people experience it more strongly than others and some even let jealousy consume them. Sometimes the feeling is justified and at other times it isn’t. It’s an ugly emotion, both for the one feeling it and for the person at the other end. So how do we know how much is too much and when it is appropriate to feel jealousy at all?

Jealous Rages

If you are in a relationship with someone who is very jealous, you find that along with the jealousy usually comes control. When someone is extremely jealous they tend to want to control what you do, where you go, and who you see. Sometimes extreme jealousy can also lead to violence. If you are in a relationship where there is violence, read no further, it’s time to end it. If you are in love with the person and don’t want to let go, believe me when I say it is necessary. They will not stop without motivation. You can leave and let the person know that after a suitable amount of counseling and time, you will consider reconciliation.

 

Jealousy After an Affair

For most of us, jealousy isn’t as all consuming as that, however, many of us do have moments when we feel out of control. You say something to your partner that you know is unjustified, but you just can’t help yourself. If your partner has cheated on you, these feelings can intensify and it is possible that you will never trust the person again. Along with that comes jealousy. Sometimes it helps to have a plan of action in this situation. Figure out what you will do if your partner does it again, let your partner know what you will do, and if it happens, do it. Once you have made a firm decision on the consequences and are done vacillating between should I stay or should I go, it is sometimes possible for the relationship to continue normally. That is assuming that the other person is not going to cheat again and you are determined to let it go and not open old wounds every time you argue.

Unjustified Jealousy For a Fix

Unjustified jealousy is another story. If you think your partner is up to no good every time they leave your presence then there is a problem. Addictive tendencies stem from yor partners need to reassure you of their faithfulness. You get upset, and you like the way it feels when they stress to you how much they love you and would never do anything to hurt you, or something along those lines. Eventually, whether you actually “feel” jealous or not, you will be confronting them just to get your fix. Your partner may be patient at first but eventually they will tire of having to constantly reassure you and may even think that if they are being accused of it anyway, why not do it. You will drive them away unless you can get this under control. Consider the following tips to deal with this type of jealousy.

 

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