Many questions for your personal development…

Sometimes, it’s best to ask yourself why you want to utilize personal development techniques to become popular in the first place. Why do you want to become popular? Is there a special type of group you’re trying to impress? If you can ask yourself the hard questions (and answer them honestly) about what you want and why, then you are ready for your next step.

Try mind mapping a personal mission statement to help you design and achieve your ideal life. When you are uncertain where your life is heading, or when you doubt your own abilities, this mission statement will remind you: who you are, what you are determined to achieve, and what you have already accomplished to date.  See the mind map I created to go with this article.

From a personal mission statement comes a plan that keeps you on track, regularly reminded, and a source for inspiration. It’s a significant personal compass, and one that you can carry with you at all times.

Be Comfortable and Confident

One of the first things to remember is that confident body language can often help you be more at ease with yourself and who you are. Like moths to a flame, people will cleave to you based on the level of confidence that you exude~Like ducks to water, people will flock to you when you exude confidence}. Remember, the happier you are with yourself, the happier others will be with you too.

Your Style and Look

Just as Picasso, Da Vinci, and Rembrandt crafted and molded masterpieces that incorporated themselves, so must your personal image be carved, painted, shaded, and shaped the best way that represents you. Contrary to what most people would believe, constantly switching up the style of your appearance seems rather desperate for popularity, rather than cemented in confidence of one’s self. For example, a nice short hair cut could do wonders for an individual to bring out their eyes, or smile. These enhancements to your facial appearance give you not only a unique style, but a look that best represents you.

Dress with Pride - Clean and Crisp. So, dress like an apple

I remember my elders telling me that an apple a day keeps the doctor away. I wondered to my self several years later, if we’ve discovered this revolutionary information, why don’t we utilize it? Why do we refuse to put it into action? These questions can only be answered by poor choices in habit. The healthier we feel, the more confident we feel. The better we feel, the better we look. people are attracted to those who look healthy. Having a shower every day will help. Should I mention the basics like, wash your hair, use a deodorant, and cleaning your teeth will aid in your quest for popularity? Guess I just did that.

Be Passionate

Throughout the years, America, and many other countries, has created movies that dazzle us and shoots us toward some form of personal development. They wrap us in a choke hold of suspense, or they drown us in admiration for a fictional character’s plights, victories, and lessons learned. One common characteristic all of the heroes in those movies have, is passion. Their passion is the reason our breaths become baited with anticipation of their triumph. These story bound people have what most viewers feel they lack.

If we focus on some real life characters with passion we see why Abraham Lincoln, John F. Kennedy, Martin Luther King, Jr., Malcolm X, George Lucas, Michael Jackson, Truman Capote, Fred Astaire, and Princess Diana were so popular. In regards to their passion for what they achieved, they astounded many, and bewildered the rest. Try getting involved in the things you have a strong interest and talent in. With a great spirit and strong passion to share, the more others will want to share with you.

Hesitate To Shine No More

Your gifts and talents should not be hidden from the world. Don’t be afraid to share your ideas with others. By showing all facets of who you are, your knowledge, and your capacity to learn what you didn’t know, will cause people to forge relationships with you, almost instantly! The more you shine, the more confidence you have, the more popular you become. You will become more known. But beware of the vanity and arrogance that infect most individuals who catch the popularity bug. Be humble, and open to new ideas, new people, and new ways to express your thoughts creatively.

Talk It Up

Make sure to keep talking. No, you don’t want to become a chatter bird, constantly rambling on and on to be friendly, while everyone else wants you to shut up. This should be knowlegeable and reassuring talk. When you speak, try to make a point, or discover information. At the end of the day, it is all about communication.

Try to talk to at least one person, whom you do not know, each day. Then move on and next week try talking to two new people daily. The next week, try to talk to three, etc. You need to gradually over time, (and practice makes perfect) feel more comfortable with chatting with anyone.

Do Something New

Try to venture out into the unknown and familiarize yourself with it. Many times, we seek refuge within the comfort zones of our habitat. Move out of your comfort zone and trying something new every once in a while is a great way to gain popularity.

Keep in mind that you should not participate in anything solely because you want attention. Make sure that when you do try something new, it’s because you have an interest in trying it out. It’s a hold your breath underwater as long as you can, but make sure you can swim first kind of thing.

Oh, and never show off when you do participate in things you’ve never tried. These things could be attending a writing class, joining a short term business class, enjoying the theater arts, or celebrating with a wonderful dinner, glass of wine, and chat by the fireplace. Ensure you spend time with people who enjoy what they do, to give you the best opportunity for a positive experience. This can only help you to become more popular.

Go With the Flow

Do you remember when you where younger and you discovered a talent you had, one that was magically given to you in the blink of an eye, and you happened to master within two to five minutes? But do you remember talking the talent to someone, a teacher, mom, dad, sibling, or grandparent, and having your talent completely flop and not work. “I did it so many times before,” you’d muffle through embarrassed eyes. Well, you shouldn’t have been embarrassed, because we all have gone through this. My talent show was ruined because I overthought it. We concentrate so hard on getting it right and not messing up that we end up doing just that.

Just like in the analogy used in the previous paragraph, so must you relate it to the world of popularity? The key to being popular is actually not trying to fit in with everyone, but being yourself, while at the same time embracing new ideas, cultures, races, styles, and entertainment. Try something at least once, that’s within your moral and ethical boundaries, and if you don’t like it then don’t do it again. The more you are exposed to, the more you understand or have empathy for. The people you meet, and the friends that you make along your way to social stardom will send your spirit soaring through the sky, a shinning star, bright with status, regard, and esteem.

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